Invalidation of Core Self
Before I share with you my 4 steps, let me tell you a bit about my personal growth into self acceptance. My parents divorced in my childhood. What that told me about my self-absorbed child self was that I was not enough to make them happy to keep them together. Then, throughout my high school career, I was bullied. My first serious relationship began just after graduating high school. I got married and moved away at 18. This relationship quickly turned abusive and ended in divorce. I then began to exercise profusely which caused my relationship with food to become toxic.
I believed I had to look and act a certain way to be loved, beautiful, worthy, and accepted. I was lost and completely unsure of who I was.
“You alone are enough. You have nothing to prove to anybody.”Maya Angelou